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Infant Loss Support

Every human life is precious.

MyCatholicDoctor understands that the loss of your child through miscarriage brings about many physical, emotional and spiritual challenges as well as many practical ones. We are so sorry for your loss. We seek to provide you with the support and resources you need during this challenging time.

Physical

If you are in the process of having a miscarriage, or believe that you may be experiencing a miscarriage, we urge you to seek local support through your doctor’s office or if necessary, your local ER. It is very important that your health is assessed in person and tailored to your unique needs. We care about you!

Physical complications after a miscarriage that you should seek immediate care for include:

◻️ Excessive bleeding

◻️ Lightheadedness/Dizzy

◻️ Increased heart rate

◻️ Fever

◻️ Foul smelling vaginal discharge

Depending on the trimester you miscarried, it will take time to recover physically. Use that time to allow yourself to fully recover. If you begin to bleed or miscarry completely at home, it is important you make a phone call to your doctor. MyCatholicDoctor is available for consultations regarding any physical complications that may arise after a miscarriage. 

Emotional

Grieving the loss of a child to miscarriage can bring about a wide range of emotions. No matter how many weeks pregnant you were, you have a right to your feelings and your grief. Learning to cope with this great loss is a process and sometimes you need someone to walk beside you in this journey.

MyCatholicDoctor has many physicians and mental health therapists to walk with you through these emotions to find hope and healing. Find a provider to talk to below.

Spiritual

With the loss of a child, many spiritual questions may arise that you have not considered before. What does the Church teach about miscarriage? My baby was not baptized, are they in Heaven? What is Limbo and is it real? These are very common questions that many couples contemplate when they are faced with the loss of their baby.

Salvation for unbaptized babies: Heaven vs Limbo

Many families are concerned about what has happened to their baby’s soul if the child was not baptized before death. The Catechism of the Catholic Church 1261 states, “As regards to children who have died without Baptism, the Church can only entrust them to the mercy of God, as she does in her funeral rites for them. Indeed, the great mercy of God who desires that all men should be saved, and Jesus’ tenderness toward children which caused Him to say: “Let the children come to me, do not hinder them,” allows us to hope that there is a way of salvation for children who have died without Baptism.”

The International Theological Commission’s sought to explore this delicate topic with their document entitled, “The Hope of Salvation for Infants Who Die Without Being Baptised.”  They begin by explaining that Limbo, (a theory defining it as a place where the souls of unbaptized babies reside rather than Heaven due to the effects of Original Sin) though around since the Middle Ages, has NEVER been an official Church teaching and is not to be taken as such.

Furthermore, St. Bernard of Clairvaux, wrote to a couple who had lost a baby to miscarriage, who worried for their child’s soul because he wasn’t baptized.

“Your faith spoke for this child. Baptism for this child was only delayed by time. Your faith suffices. The waters of your womb – were they not the waters of life for this child? Look at your tears. Are they not like the waters of baptism? Do not fear this. God’s ability to love is greater than our fears. Surrender everything to God.”

Though not explicitly stated in Church teaching, both the Catechism, Liturgy and Saints give us hope and reason to believe that our children are with God in Heaven. Be at peace. The love and mercy of God are great! Your child was known, created and loved by God no matter how long he or she lived!

The Lord’s acts of mercy are not exhausted, His compassion is not spent. They are renewed each morning – great is your faithfulness! The Lord is my portion, I tell myself, therefore I will hope in Him.” Lamentations 3:22-24

Practical

One day you are planning for a baby. The next day you are planning a funeral/memorial service/burial. These are challenges and costs that many families face after losing their babies. There are many options for Funerals, Blessings and Commendations that the Church offers to families after a loss. There are also many resources regarding burial options and help for associated costs.

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Trappist Infant Caskets: As an important ministry of the monks of New Melleray Abbey, caskets are offered in compassion and faith at no cost to families who have lost a child. We invite the family in need of a child casket to contact us directly so that we may assist in helping at this difficult time. By providing children’s caskets, the monks’ prayer is that all children will be commended to God’s love and care forever. Every child provided a Trappist Casket is remembered in a Mass said by the monks and, as a living memorial, they plant a red oak seedling in the spring on the Abbey grounds in honor of each child who is buried in one of their caskets.

Heaven’s Gain Ministries: Heaven’s Gain specializes in providing services and products for families suffering the loss of a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death. Personal one-on-one advocacy is provided by a certified Baby Loss Doula/ Baby Loss Family Adviser. As a part of their ministry, Heaven’s Gain also provides beautiful baby caskets and infant urns that respect the dignity of the baby with quality workmanship, individual touches, and personalization.

Mommy To A Little Saint Facebook Group: Mommy To A Little Saint is for Catholic women who have experienced the loss of a young child through miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss. This group exists to provide support, encouragement and prayer.

Shrine of the Unborn: The world’s only Shrine of the Unborn dedicating children who have died before or at birth is located at the Parish Church of the Holy Innocents. You can register online to have your child remembered at Mass in their Book of Life. They will also send you a certificate with their name on it. You will find a candle lit in their memory and the BOOK OF LIFE with your baby’s name inscribed.

Rest in His Arms Angel Gowns: This ministry takes donated wedding dresses, and with much volunteer help, converts them into beautiful angel gowns, pouches and sacks that are used as burial garments when a baby does not make it home due to miscarriage, stillbirth or other infant death. Their angel gowns are distributed to hospitals, funeral homes and individual families all across the USA free of charge as their gift of love to help those grieving the loss of a baby.

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Organic Conceptions

Organic Conceptions helps couples move forward by giving them the necessary tools to help overcome the suffering that happens when struggling to conceive.

They provide a full support system of resources, including online instructional courses, a private community, and access to fertility experts. Their goal is to help you identify and understand the emotional challenges that accompany various stages of the conception journey.

A Mom's Peace

This apostolate brings peace by discretely supporting mothers with burial, bereavement and remembrance programs. They lovingly guide families through difficult decisions in the immediate wake of loss and serve all families, regardless of religious beliefs. A Mom’s Peace exists to fulfill the corporal and spiritual works of mercy to bury the dead and comfort the sorrowful.

Catholic Miscarriage Support

Founded by two Catholic couples with their personal struggles of  miscarriage, this website provides immediate, practical support for others who have lost a child to miscarriage. They provide physical, spiritual, and emotional support to those experiencing the pain of miscarriage, and answer questions about what the Catholic Church teaches.

Life Perspectives

Life Perspectives provides education, research and expertise to health professionals and other care providers to offer support after reproductive loss including miscarriage and abortion. Life Perspectives also offers a safe place, without religious or political affiliation, for those impacted by miscarriage and abortion.

MyCatholicDoctor has curated a list of recommended Catholic miscarriage and infant loss resources.

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Prayers and Scripture:

Divine Mercy Novena (especially Day 6)

Memorare

Our Lady of the Sorrows Rosary

Jeremiah 1:5

Matthew 5:4 (for comfort)

Psalm 34:18-19 (for comfort)

2 Corinthians 1:3-5

Psalm 139:13-16

Catechism 2319

Catechism 1261

The Hope Of Salvation For Infants Who Die Without Being Baptised

Books:

Grieving Together: A couple’s Journey through Miscarriage by Laura and Franco Fanucci

After Miscarriage: A Catholic Women’s Companion to Healing and Hope by Karen Edmisten

Blessed is the Fruit of Thy Womb: Rosary Reflections on Miscarriage, Stillbirth and infant Loss by Heidi Indahl

“Every human life, from the moment of conception until death, is scared because the human person has been willed for its own sake in the image and likeness of the living and holy God.”

-Catechism of the Catholic Church 2319